Spot a Commitment-Minded Guy

For as long as I’ve known Rachel, she’s wanted the same thing: A wonderful guy who treated her well and wanted to make a future with her. But the men in her life never quite fit that description. Every time I spoke to her, she’d be gushing about someone new. This guy...

A Scientifically-Proven Secret to Lasting Love

Cecilia was describing her new boyfriend to me. “It’s fun, it’s exciting, but when I’ve needed him, he isn’t there. It feels like I can’t share everything that’s going on in my life with him, because he tunes out. I think he finds it annoying when I talk too much.”...

Should I Go No Contact?

I’m sometimes asked whether I think the No Contact Rule works. For those of you unfamiliar with the term, the No Contact Rule refers to ceasing all contact with your ex for about 30 days after a breakup. You don’t text, you don’t comment on his posts, you don’t ask...

When Generosity Backfires

“Give more than you get.” It’s such a beautiful philosophy. It inspires generosity, selflessness, and a sense of abundance. But there’s one place where giving more than you get can backfire spectacularly: Uncommitted relationships. When you show a man how much you...

Try This If You’re Frustrated with Your Love Life

You have been working so hard. You’ve been pouring time and energy into finding the right guy, or making things work with this guy, or just being the best version of you so you’re ready when Mr. Right shows up. And sometimes a little voice whispers inside your head…...