Why Guys Break Up Instead of Working on the Relationship

This is a story you might have heard before. A man meets a woman… And he falls hard. He’s never met anyone like her before. They have so much fun together. She makes him laugh. They talk about things he usually doesn’t talk about. He thinks about her all the time. He...

He Won’t Talk About Marriage

“I just can’t give anymore, James,” she told me. “I don’t know what to do.” Marissa had come to me with a request. She wanted to get married. She and her guy had been together for eight years. They had two kids together. Marissa was in her forties, and she felt that...

The Secret Need That Drives Men

Some of my clients tell me that they already know how to deal with men. “You’ve got to train a man like you train a dog,” they say. “Ignore his bad behavior and reward his good behavior.” It’s a common belief, but such a missed opportunity for connection. Treating a...

3 Signs He’s Not Over His Ex

“James!” Kelli threw her bag on the floor and flung herself into the chair. “I knew it! I found the evidence.” “What evidence?” I asked. “He still has pictures of her. Couple pictures, right there in his bedside drawer! And she’s still in his contacts list. I knew he...

3 Signs He’s A Good Long Term Partner

He’s so much fun to date, but what will he be like in 20 years? If you’re dating with the goal of finding your future husband, you can’t just find a man you enjoy. You’ve got to figure out whether you’ll be able to make a good life together, which requires balancing...